1. Notes: 24701 / 3 months ago  from calamityjanie (originally from toptumbles)
    calamityjanie: ashleysabatino: I’m getting sick of the term friendzone. Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it. Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim. It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection. But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from. And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy. amen Fuckin’ word. Well that’s some bullshit if I ever heard it. The difference is that when a guy gets friend zoned, odds are that he probably has already taken her out quite a few times and there probably weren’t a whole lot of times when she was the one paying for dinner. On top of that, once the friend zone hits, we get to hear about all the assholes she has to deal with and we end up wondering why the asshole was the one that even got her in the first place. There is only so many times that we can listen to her say that she wishes more guys were like us. There’s a lot of us. We just get stun being your best friend. When we friend zone a girl, rarely will you hear us complain to her about all the bitches we’re dating. And not once will we ever say that we wish more girls were like you. Because, the nice guys hold on to a nice girl when they find them. Nice girls date douchebags and are best friends with nice guys. It’s science.

    calamityjanie:

    ashleysabatino:

    I’m getting sick of the term friendzone.

    Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.

    Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.

    It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

    But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

    And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

    amen

    Fuckin’ word.

    Well that’s some bullshit if I ever heard it. The difference is that when a guy gets friend zoned, odds are that he probably has already taken her out quite a few times and there probably weren’t a whole lot of times when she was the one paying for dinner. On top of that, once the friend zone hits, we get to hear about all the assholes she has to deal with and we end up wondering why the asshole was the one that even got her in the first place. There is only so many times that we can listen to her say that she wishes more guys were like us. There’s a lot of us. We just get stun being your best friend. When we friend zone a girl, rarely will you hear us complain to her about all the bitches we’re dating. And not once will we ever say that we wish more girls were like you. Because, the nice guys hold on to a nice girl when they find them. Nice girls date douchebags and are best friends with nice guys. It’s science.

    (Source: lolsnaps.com)

     

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